Love after abuse doesn't feel like falling—it's rising.
Decentering romantic love was the key to my awakening. It enabled me to pursue passions, get my body feeling pretty, experience the magic of solitude and call all of my energy back to myself—a healthy high every woman should experience at least once in her life.
So when pure love showed up at my doorstep, I was finally ready to welcome it.
They say when you know, you know, and boy do we know. There is magic that flows through our every interaction—a deep connection founded in mutual admiration and a palpable desire to see each other succeed in creativity.
This isn’t a picture perfect comeback story, and that in itself is beautiful. It’s learning to trust myself again, my own intuition. It’s the art of practicing true discernment—being able to sense how my nervous system feels when I’m around someone.
This person is the epitome of safety—a real-life human whose family set the tone for a secure attachment, and the embodiment of respect.
Making decisions alongside someone flows easily for the first time ever because everything is motivated purely by our highest good. A natural balance of selfishness and selflessness, which we know will render us both successful in our pursuit of happiness.
To love is to be known, and my authenticity is indeed paying off in larger ways than I’d anticipated. I didn’t see love on my bingo card for this year—I was entirely content with celibacy. I figured my outspokenness served as a shield for men and women who couldn’t handle my level of vulnerability, until the right person came along and cracked my heart wide open.
He sees me the way I want to be seen. He is genuinely talented beyond measure at perceiving things and people in their purest form—through the lens of compassion. An innate ability to amplify the power my voice holds. It’s a limitless feeling worth documenting.
A man completely unthreatened by my light, that’s what I didn’t know I needed. Whose talents are set in motion by an authentic desire to see my gifts expand beyond intelligent growth, and into ultimate fulfillment. The energy of reciprocation is instinctive, and with a love like this, feels like it could go on forever.
